Confidence is the ability of an individual to face difficult tasks and overcome it.  Confidence does not denotes absent of fear,  but the ability to overcome it. Below are practical guides that will enhance and build your self-confidence.

1. Develop the habit of Smiling

It is important to create a habit of smiling, this creates a conducive environment for you, no matter the circumstances.  A real genuine smile, will silently kill the biggest fear in you, and build the giant of courage deposited into you, which you never thought existed.

Smile when you meet new people, when you are faced with challenges considered to be very difficult, these will generally help you to be happier even if you’re not feeling that way. Remember, your smile gives you access to a room full of courage and strength without force. Live in confidence, because that is your identity.

2. Say NO to Negative thought

Whatever the heart of man permits, will become eminent in his life. Whatever you don’t want in life, you don’t nurture. To live in self-confidence, it is paramount to eradicate every form of negativity while embracing positive thoughts For instance, Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up within your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one. At such a time like this, you need to be practical in your approach. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first. Because in the palace of self-confidence, your thought is your master key that opens doors of undeniable victory over fear.

3. Treat failure and setback as feedback

Dear great mind, kindly note that the past is gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time.  Treat failure and setback as feedback and move forward instead of an opportunity to hold yourself back.

Put yourself together and move on with courage. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost. Do not be imprisoned by the bondage of the past, rather let it be a lesson towards a better tomorrow. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every chance you get. And because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it, and have more confidence.

Above all, this is the best time to say NO to the bondage of your past and embrace the strength and joy of the future.

4. Appreciate Yourself

Many times we fail to celebrate who we are, and this invariably has denied us the key to self-confidence. Appreciating what you have and celebrating your little wins build up your self-confidence and give you a psychological boost towards subsequent challenges and opportunities. It is important to be appreciative of what you have and also be thankful for your life. Don’t let your happiness depend solely on what people have to say or the commendation of others. Be the first to commend yourself, look into the mirror and confidently say to yourself repeatedly that  YOU ARE THE BEST.

5. Increase Your Reservoir of Knowledge

Knowledge is powerful, and it is the major avenue you can become relevant in your world.

Your relevance determine the level of your confidence especially when it comes to when, why, where and how to address an audience.  This is a new week and the year is still fresh, do something that will add to you. For instance, sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about. Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

 “You cannot be loaded with virtues and not be needed by people that matters most in your field and other spares of life”. Be more conscious in becoming a better version of yourself, by adding value to yourself as you seek knowledge.

Knowledge delivers you from the burden of ignorance and fear of unknown.

6. Improve and constantly utilize Your Body Language

To build your self-confidence, it is important to improve on the use of your body language. This is one of the keys that unlock the treasure of your self-confidence. Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels.

Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Ensure you move around consistently, if you are on the podium, for instance, utilize the space given to you, standing at a spot without body language will give room to a boring presentation.

This creative energy gets the blood pumping around your body – it makes you feel better and more confident. Learn to present yourself in good and high esteem.

Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.

7. Be Ready To Give Yourself Good Advice

Many of us are carried away by the euphoria of having the capacity to solve other people’s problem, forgetting that we also have battles we must win through our own good advice. Look for the patterns of thought that deals with your personal issues and solve them. Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

This is known as Solomon’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. I however charge you to challenge the aforementioned paradox and take your own good advice next. Don’t wait until the whole world started advising you, some may even advice you wrongly, but you also have a great solution you have been ignoring.

Rise up today, look within and confront the spirit of mediocrity.


Thank you for reading through,  I will continue with the other practical guides in my next series.


Temitayo Abudu

The Glossophobia

Disruptive Coach


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